This is my rebel yell

So today in my LifeSpan Development class, we had a presentation. Four boys, two baseball players and two basketball players, gave a presentation on family diversity. Eventually the topic turned to divorce, something I still have a hard time talking about...


It's like a knife stuck deep in my heart...any mention of the subject just twists it a little more...someday I know the knife will be gone and I will be healed...but not yet...no, not yet...


The topic of divorce ended up quite heated, due to several students from broken homes getting riled up when the presenters started saying their facts were hard facts, nothing to be done about them.


Umm, wrong.



Just because there are a lot of people who, after seeing their parents lose their love for each other, immediately go out and seek a relationship, vowing to love and cherish that person forever then end up divorcing and continuing the cycle their parents started...well, that does not mean we're all like that.


It was pointed out that my parents got divorced a year ago and here I am, engaged and planning my own wedding for next year. Since I'm "following a statistic" by getting married so young, it's only "logical" that my marriage to the man I've known most of my life, who I have loved, still love, and will always love...it is only "logical" that we will get divorced less than 5 years after we are wed.


I don't think so, buddy boy.


I will not repeat my parents' mistakes. I've done a good enough job so far...haven't had sex, haven't gotten pregnant twice out of wedlock, I've made to college and I will graduate.


I will not marry, only to divorce in a few years. What I have with my fiance is real...I wouldn't have agreed to marry him if I didn't want to spend the rest of my life loving him, living with him, going through all life's ups and downs with him.


Just because statistics and trends predict early marriages will end in divorce does not mean they will.

I will not let statistics and trends tell me how my marriage will end. That is a covenant between me, him, and our God.


So you boys who tried to tell me and the others in my class that we have no control over our married lives, that because of our parents' mistakes our love life will end in pain and divorce, you can just take your statistics and shove them where the sun don't shine.


You don't know what you're talking about